It’s my Bloggy and I’ll write what I want to !

I’m a writer.  It’s not just what I do.  It’s who I am.  Perhaps it’s wrong to identify so strongly with just one aspect of myself.  But it is an identity I am comfortable with and makes me happy.   Stephen King quote

I have done a tremendous amount of research to determine how to best “brand” myself and to represent my brand to my audience.  I’ve been told that to stray too far away from that brand runs the risk of alienating people.  I’ve been told to “stay on point” and “only write about things that are reflective of your brand”.  How to gain more Twitter followers, how to get your blog posts noticed, how to entice people to “like” your facebook page and thus like you by default.

I learned a lot through this process.  The most important thing being that by stressing over all these details I lost my voice.  I was not only writing/posting less but I was also enjoying it less.  I agonized over having so few followers and thus tried to write what I thought everyone wanted rather than what inspired me at any given moment.  I lost my authenticity and my way.


I write.  It’s how I express my thoughts and how I work through my feelings.  I don’t share everything that comes forward.  Not by a long shot.  Either it’s total crap (yes, I am willing to admit that not everything I write is amazing) or it’s not something I want to share with anyone other than myself.  As I said, I use writing to help me work through things and not all of that is for public consumption.

I am very fortunate to earn a living as a writer.  So I write all day, every day.  I also write my own stuff and am always working on at least three projects at any given time.  That’s definitely not how some feel it “should” be done but it’s how I do things and I am very comfortable with my process.

So after a considerable amount of thought and reflection, I’ve decided to just let myself do what I do best.  Write.  Without any sort of agenda or rules.  At my own pace.  About whatever catches my fancy at any given time.

Interestingly, as soon as I let go I gained followers on Twitter and Facebook, started getting more feedback on my blog, and remembered how much I love writing.  So this is how I am going to do things from now on.  Sylvia Plath

Have you ever found life became easier once you let go?  Are there any preconceived notions you think you might be better off without?



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Message from the Faeries

I was given a new deck for my birthday.  Brian Froud’s “Heart of Faerie Oracle”.  It has been on my wish list for some time and it did not disappoint.  (although I can’t see anything Froud-related disappointing)

I have been doing readings for friends with this deck and absolutely love it!  So needless to say, I chose to use it for this week’s reading.

I decided to do a three card, past/present/future spread.


Reading April 6 001


First up, The Magician. Reading April 6 002

Interestingly enough, the topic of manifestation has come up quite a bit lately.  Ellen Dugan is publishing a new book entitled “Practical Prosperity Magick”, due out in June.  The timing seems right, as many of us are trying to find ways to manifest finances via our creative endeavors.

The Magician reminds us that we can convince ourselves of anything if we put our minds to it.  But without the work behind the intention, we are simply wearing a mask and creating Faerie Glamour.  When the glamour wears off, we have to take responsibility for the situation we created and the circumstances we find ourselves in.

Have you recently come to the realization that not everything is as it seems?  Do you project an image to the outside world that is not in alignment with your truth?


Second, The Gift. Reading April 6 003


This card goes well with The Magician as it also talks of Faerie Glamour.  Oftentimes, gifts from the Fae are not what they seem.  But in this case, she is holding a very precious, very REAL gift for you.  The gift of wisdom.

What can you learn from your past mis-steps?  What knowledge can you bring forward to help you move on?  What have you done to make changes in your life?  What can you do now to ensure that you do not slide back into previous patterns?

“If you are willing to acknowledge the journey you have taken and the lessons you have learned, then accept her gift, freely given and richly deserved.”


Third, the Faerie of Growth. Reading April 6 004


When we move through challenges, we have the opportunity to learn amazing lessons.  But we have to be open to that.  In order to grow, change has to take place.  Are you willing to change?  You have the tools you need and are about to find the path you are meant to be on in order to move forward with your life.  But you have to be willing to take the first step.  It’s rarely as frightening as we often lead ourselves to believe.

Now.  Take another look at the cards.  Do you find any messages there?  Does one of them leap out at you, demanding your attention?  Feel free to sit with them for a minute or two and see what they have to say.


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Guidance from the Unicorns!

I did readings for two friends this morning and the Unicorns seem to have a lot to say.  So for this week’s reading, I decided to use Doreen Virtue’s “Magical Unicorns” deck.  I am also trying a new spread that came to me today.  The Five Elements spread – Earth, Air, Fire, Water, and Spirit.

Let’s see what this week has in store!


Guidance from the Unicorns - March 30 2014 001


Earth (Grounding) – “Pets”

Guidance from the Unicorns - March 30 2014 002

Your love and understanding for animals is coming through.  I have Sighthounds and know that I find them to be a very Zen group of dogs.  Very calm and quiet.  They are also very sensitive to my emotions.  So if your pet is unsettled, perhaps look at how you are feeling.  Are they picking up on your stress, anxiety, anger, and frustration?  Animals are here to help us and to teach us, if we are open to the messages they have for us.

Crystal – Petrified Wood.  This is an excellent stone for grounding and is very gentle.  It is wood and rock combined, which doubles the energy of each and amplifies the energy without it being overwhelming.


Air (Release) – “Just Be Yourself”

Guidance from the Unicorns - March 30 2014 003

Are you holding on to old patterns or beliefs in order to fit in?  When we release what no longer serves us or no longer rings true to us, then it frees us to move forward.  To experience new things and learn about the world around us.  To discover who we have become.  When we are true to who we are, we attract like-minded people who can not only accompany us on our journey but learn from us and teach us.

Crystal – Green Calcite.  I know I have suggested this one before but when it comes to release, there isn’t a better choice.


Fire (Passion) – “Believe in Yourself”

Guidance from the Unicorns - March 30 2014 004

What you focus on, you will attract.  So if you focus on success, then success is sure to follow.  What is your passion, your soul’s purpose, your life’s work?  Do you find yourself being drawn to a certain interest time and time again?  What is preventing you from exploring that?  Typically what keeps us from realizing our dreams is a fear of failure, combined with a fear of success.  Yes.  A fear of succeeding.  If we succeed at this, then people will expect us to be brilliant all the time.  I will no longer have permission to try things and fail.  To this, the Unicorns say “PFFT!”  Don’t let fear control you.  Even if you “fail”, you will have learned something.  Even if all you learn is that “this is just not for me, thank you anyway”.  Sometimes learning what you don’t want leads you to what you do.

Crystal – Rose Quartz.  This is a loving, supportive stone that can help you love yourself enough to follow your dreams.


Water (Cleansing) – “Water”

Guidance from the Unicorns - March 30 2014 005

What a surprise!  The Unicorns definitely have a plan for us this week.  Drink more water, eat more fruit/veg, take care of yourself.  Part of release is releasing toxins and the key to that is water.  I recently started going to a local wellness center to use their infra-red sauna.  I was advised that the more water I drink, the more I will sweat (release).  I know I don’t drink nearly enough water, so I am working on that.  As I sat there, something interesting happened.  I started chanting “Release.  Release.  Release.”  I gave myself permission to just let go and the sweat started pouring off my body.  Sometimes all it takes is giving yourself permission to release and to heal.

Crystal – Blue Banded Agate.  This is a great stone to help balance the masculine and feminine energies.  It is also a stone of support in times of stress, enabling you to see things as they are so that you are not forced to try and find the truth through a forest of false beliefs.


Spirit (Intuition) – “Definitely Yes”

Guidance from the Unicorns - March 30 2014 006

Fantastic!  You have a question on your mind.  Something that I think you’ve known the answer to all along but just needed a little nudge.  Well, the answer is YES!  So, what are you going to do next?  You have confirmation that you’re heading in the right direction.  There is a saying “Sometimes the first step across the threshold of a new path is the hardest one to take.”  So follow the Unicorn!  Take a deep breath, take that first step and after that, the path will appear.  You’ll reflect back on that moment and smile, knowing that it wasn’t nearly as difficult as you made it out to be.  Whatever you do, don’t let negative self-talk creep in.  Tell your ego to take a seat and be on your way!

Crystal – Clear Quartz.  It’s a great crystal to use for anything and everything.  To focus our intentions, to help us see clearly, to provide us with support and protection as we move forward.  Not only that, it’s beautiful to look at and we can all use more beauty in our lives.

I hope you enjoyed this reading as much as I enjoyed doing it for you.  Definitely leave your comments below.  I am always interested in feedback and look forward to hearing from you.

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9 Random Childhood Memories

As I was heading home the other day, I took an unexpected trip down memory lane.  I have no idea what set this off, but I had an enjoyable drive home.  When I look at this list I find myself thinking that I was an odd little duck.  Then I jump to my own defense, declaring “I wasn’t weird.  I was CREATIVE!”  For example :

I would fill my lite brite with colored pegs in a random pattern, then sit and marvel at my creation.  It wasn’t the artwork itself, but the glow of the colored lights that appealed to me.

I also spent a mind-boggling amount of time staring at the Christmas tree.


I wore my ice skates in the house and “skated” on the lino.  No idea how my parent’s never found out about that.

I got one of those candy-filled tubes with the plastic cartoon head on the top.  I decided it would make a great finger puppet, so I forced it onto the end of my index finger, where it became stuck.

Jim Henson’s “The Frog Prince” scared the crap out of me.

My friends and I would play “haunted house”.  I would come up with these complex backstories and intricate characters.  The response was disappointing.  They wanted blood, guts, and gore.  I was giving them a psychological thriller.

I played “Mermaid” in the tub and flooded the floor on a regular basis.  My parents DID find out and were not at all happy about it.

Opening line The Little Mermaid

I memorized the book “Barney Beagle Plays Baseball” and my mother would hear me reciting it in my crib.

I had a Fisher Price radio that played “Raindrops Keep Falling on my Head”.  I would wind it up and hold it to my ear so I could hear the whir of the music box motor as it played.  I’m surprised I didn’t deafen myself.

So, what sort of weird stuff did you do as a kid?  Feel free to liberate my idea for your own blog.  I would love to see what everyone else remembers.

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Guidance from the Faeries – March 23-29 2014

This week, I decided to use the “Faerie Ring” oracle deck.  The cards are divided into four Courts – Spring, Summer, Autumn, and Winter.  The Faeries appear in the season they are most often associated with and each Court has a King, Queen, Knave, and Lady.  There are also eight Festival cards for the Faerie Feasts of Imbolc, Ostara, Beltane, Midsummer, Lughnasa, Herfest, Samain, and Yule.

I was also guided to draw three cards.  Again, this represents a past/present/future reading.  With regard to the third card (future) this indicates what can be if the issue is resolved, the work done, the path followed. 

Reading - March 23 - 29 2014

 The cards are so detailed, I decided to take a photo of each so that they would be easier to see and you would perhaps be able to better receive any messages waiting there for you.

The first card that comes up is from the Spring Court.  Card Five is the Fairy Hart/Unicorn.  There are a few in this deck which have a duel image and this one came up reversed – with the Unicorn rightside up.  Unicorns have been coming up a lot lately for me, so this isn’t a huge surprise. 

Closeup of Cards - March 23 2014 001

Unicorns are as elusive as they are sought after.  It is believed that as soon as you stop the chase, they will appear.  Could it be you have been chasing something that always seems just out of reach?

This Unicorn brings with him great blessings.  A sign of healing, releasing anxiety, and the experience of pure joy.  When you release what no longer serves and open your heart to the gifts the Universe has waiting, you will find abundance in places you never expected.

The second card is a Fairy Festival – Herfest or “Harvest Festival” is celebrated at the Autumn Equinox.  This is a time when the hours of day and night are equal, darkness and light are in balance.  It is a time when you see the fruits of your labor and success through hard work.  It is also a time to reflect on how far you’ve come.  What lessons can you glean from your experiences? 

Closeup of Cards - March 23 2014 002

Faeries are especially interested in the harvest and farmers would often set aside an offering for them.  Part of this was to thank them for a successful season, part was to avoid the wrath of Faeries who may mean them harm.  Much like the balance of light and dark, there are both “light” and “dark” Faeries.  Is there anyone that you need to make peace with?  Are there relationships that must come to an end?  Ties you need to cut so that you may move forward? 

The third card is also a Festival.  Now, at a glance it may seem like this reading is all about parties and fun.  But a great deal of preparation goes into any celebration and that is something we need to remember. 

Closeup of Cards - March 23 2014 003

The card is the Festival of Beltane or “May Day”.  This time marks the beginning of Summer in the Northern Hemisphere.  Here we see a full moon and the Faerie Queen standing on a mound.  The other Faeries are lighting our way.

When the Beltane card appears, it is a sign of strength.  Of flourishing, growth, happiness, love, marriage, new relationships, virility, energy, and fertility. 

Life is a never-ending cycle.  We go through challenging times, take the lessons we are meant to learn, apply them in our own lives, see growth as a result, which in turn prepares us for future lessons.  If you are able to see the lessons and learn from them, you will be able to move forward and enjoy the new life that awaits you.  If you are looking for a new relationship (for example) you have to first do the inner work so that you can bring your best self to that relationship.  This can also be applied to a new job.  Are there any courses that you need to take?  Articles on-line that would provide guidance?  People that you should network with?  Perhaps there is a mentor waiting just around the corner. 

By letting go of relationships and situations that are not working for you, then you open the door to those that will.  If you choose to hang on to that which no longer serves (which is understandable, we all do from time to time) then you have to accept that you will delay your own growth.  But there is a lesson even in that decision.  Perhaps that person/situation has more yet to teach you.  Perhaps you can start to distance yourself or start to set boundaries so that when the time comes, it can be a gentle release.  Follow your intuition.  It will never steer you wrong.

I thought I was finished the reading and was about to publish this post when I had a nagging feeling that something was missing.  I kept hearing “Unicorn”.  So I decided to draw a single card from my new Doreen Virtue deck, “Magical Unicorns”.  Here is the message they have for us.

Unicorn Card March 23

The Simplicity card has this message “Put your energy into the basics, and let go of excess”.  Time to do some Spring Cleaning.  Old love letters, momentos, even clothing your ex left behind will be a block preventing a new relationship from blooming.  A messy office can be standing in the way of new projects coming forward.  A messy kitchen?  If you want to improve your health then removing stale energy is the first place to start.

Every time I’ve done a serious clean of my home, I find things that I thought I lost or forgot I had.  I also find that I have been hanging on to things I no longer need, want, or use.  I have even found a few things that I never liked to begin with.  Let it all go!

Behind the Unicorn, you can see a bridge.  This to me indicates that a new path is waiting to be discovered.  Clear away the clutter and the way forward will also become clear.


My Pietersite Pendant

The crystal that I am drawn to recommend is Pietersite.  It is an excellent stone to help you move through change and let go of any resistance or fear you may have.  While it is a gentle stone, it is also very strong.  It provides emotional support and can enable you to set things in motion.  This can be especially helpful if you feel that you are going through things alone or if things are such that you cannot discuss them openly.


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Has “Thinking Outside the Box” become a cliche?

“Once we create a comfort zone, we rarely step outside of that comfort zone.  But the consequence of that is a phenomenon known as hedonic adaptation. Overstimulation to the same kind of thing, the same stimuli, again and again and again, renders said stimuli invisible.  Your brain has already mapped it in its own head and you know longer literarily have to be engaged in it.”  - Performance Philosopher, Jason Silva

As a commercial copywriter, I find this concept extremely interesting.  When it comes to advertising, everyone expresses that they’re looking for something “really different”.  Something that will “stand out” and “catch people’s attention”.  But in truth, stepping outside their comfort zone is uncomfortable.  So they invariably revert back to what is safe and (in their minds) “proven”. 

Think Outside the Box

I’m not in any way saying we should reinvent the wheel.  But if the original concept had not been improved upon, I think it’s safe to assume we’d still be riding around in a horse and buggy.

We’ve all heard stories of people considered to be at the top of their game who were rejected time after time.  We all sit back and think “I bet so-and-so at such-and-such company is really kicking themselves.”  But rather than shut down and beat themselves up over a lost opportunity, shouldn’t they be opening their minds to the myriad of amazing talent just waiting to be discovered, ideas begging to be brought to fruition, and dreams sitting on the cusp of realization?  Instead of focusing on those who missed the boat, why not turn our attention to the people who recognized the brilliance of the idea and had the courage to take the leap?  THAT’S where the lesson is.

Maybe it’s time to admit that the proverbial wheel (along with all its clichés) has seen its day.  The next time we ask someone to “think outside the box”, perhaps we should take a moment and ask ourselves how far outside that box we’re willing to travel.


Let’s say you’re asked to come up with an idea.  I brainstorm all the time, so this is fun to me.  Here’s where it gets sticky.  There is no solidified brand, no positioning statement, no mission outlined, no target market established, no concept at all of the message intended for the potential audience.  Believe it or not, telling a creative mind that you’ll “know it when you see it” is actually more restrictive than approaching them with at least a general idea of what you’re looking for.  It does no good at all to give someone supposed “free reign” and allow them “creative expression”, only to shoot them down over and over again with a simple “I don’t know what I want, but I don’t want THAT.”  Now, I have had a very small selection of clients over the years who have allowed me to just run with an idea and been very happy with it.  But that is a VERY small group.

Getting back to the concept of a “comfort zone”, we all have them.  They’re necessary, or we would have no boundaries and no social code with regard to propriety.  Having said that, my boundaries are certainly different from yours, which in turn will be different from your neighbours, and so on.  You may find that you have to adjust your comfort zone in order to speak to those you’re trying to reach.  Otherwise you risk alienating your audience or worse.  Having them tune out altogether.  If you can’t manage the adjustments necessary, perhaps you need to rethink your entire game plan.

So, before telling someone to “think outside the box”, be sure that you are both on the same page with regard to the size, shape, and flexibility of that box.  Otherwise you’ll soon find that you’re each speaking a completely different language.

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Faerie Guidance – March 16-22 2014

As promised, here is the very first weekly Faerie Oracle reading.  It is my hope to provide you with guidance for the coming week and perhaps some clarity on issues you may be facing or questions you might have.

This week, I drew three cards from Brian Froud’s “Faerie Oracle” deck.  This type of reading is often referred to as a “Past/Present/Future” spread.

Reading for the Blog - March 16 2014

First up, The Singer of Intuition.

The information we sought was there all along.  We simply have to open ourselves up and listen to the messages that are waiting for us.  When you ask yourself about the situation currently at hand, what are your initial thoughts/feelings?  We have all experienced times when we “should have listened to our gut”.  Listen now.  What is it telling you?

Next, Ekstasis.

When this card appears in a reading, it is a message that we are on the right track.  It is encouraging us to take the next step, to realize our dreams.  When we are experiencing joy in our lives, then this positive energy attracts more of the same.  Allow the joy to flow through you and open your heart.  When we share this joy and express gratitude, it multiplies.

Finally G. Hobyah.

Sometimes when we are on the cusp of realizing our dreams, false beliefs and unjustified fear creeps up on us.  This emotional housekeeping is necessary in order for us to heal before moving forward, so that we do not take any baggage with us.  G. Hobyah holds his crossed arms in front of him as if to say “You have a choice to make.  Will you go this way or that?”  We all have a choice.  If we choose to hold on to old patterns, then these patterns will repeat themselves.  If we choose to release what no longer serves, then we will experience a new way of thinking, acting, and experiencing the world around us.

A crystal that I find helpful when it comes to releasing that which no longer serves is green calcite.  It is one of the first crystals I started working with and remains one of my favourites.

Mmmm Green Calcite

Did the reading speak to you?  Did you gain any insight at all into any questions you may have?  I am always interested in feedback and look forward to hearing from you.


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